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“I’ve been married twice and had a son in my first marriage – who is now 27 – and in between the two marriages I did date a woman with a son but I felt like she wanted me to become a father-figure to this child,” he says.
“It raised lots of complex feelings: I felt guilty to be spending more time with her and her son than my own and I didn’t like the idea of stepping on someone else’s toes as his biological father was still very much around.” While Jonathan wouldn’t mind if a potential partner had grown-up children, provided they were no longer at home and doing their own thing, “young ones are definitely out.” “I don’t want to be part of a family unit and splashing out on days out together. I’m feeling selfish and not dating women with children is part of that.” There are two million single parents in the UK and 91 per cent of them women.
“It’s very possible that single mothers – especially those in their late 30s and 40s – may send out signals, even subconsciously, that they may not want to have more children.
“Men are aware that an investment of time is needed to put into a child and, on the whole, it makes sense for them to invest that time in seeking a woman who is prepared to have their own biological child.” Dan has dated a number of single mothers in the past but is now avoiding them altogether.
“We are driven to reproduce and continue our lineage ,” says Carole.
“When men are looking for a mate they look for someone physically and mentally healthy to breed with so that their child can be born strong.
On a recent thread on the secret sharing app, Whisper, tried to explain the warped reasons they ruled out dating single mothers.
Here, Sun Online, meets the men who are breaking a taboo by refusing to date single mums.
“I know it’s getting harder to find single women without children at my age but I’m going to keep looking.
I’m not the biological father though so it means I can’t set any of the standards or rules.
“The kids of another woman I dated didn’t really accept me and there was a feeling of ‘Who are you?
I offer you my ruined floppy pu**y and mental issues!
” Reason number five is, “A woman who has given birth can’t ever have a body close to what she had before carrying a child.