For reasons I’m not gonna bore you with here, my parents primed me—albeit not deliberately—for a mindset not oriented towards the Chinese social context.
It was never their intention to white-wash my brain, but the result was nonetheless that my exposure to the Chinese community was fairly limited.
She’s about to dive headfirst into the world of online dating, but she’s not looking for love.
It doesn’t mean that I can’t relate to many of the aspects of being non-white in a society in which that is not the norm.
In terms of my experiences as a young gay Asian American, a lot is negative.
Many guys I try to talk to just straight up won’t respond to me.
Or maybe it was more like me moving in and out of contexts that were void of anything Chinese and I chose not to pursue it.
It’s amazing how honor-based violence messes with your head.