Dating each other during separation
So I named myself Isabella on my e Harmony profile, put up a year-old headshot, and watched half in fascination, half in horror as e Harmony's computerized compatibility matrix churned out a slew of Santa Claus look-alikes — some on Harleys. He tossed around some loving adjectives to describe her. Until he said, "He told her that he didn't want any more kids; he already had two sons in their twenties."My brain clicked, my breath was stuck, and my stomach was walloped with a pang of odd familiarity. It took me a minute to find my voice."Is your daughter's name Michelle? Since my first date in 30 years, three years ago, I've been told "I think I love you" twice. I had a catfish experience named "Albie." And I've developed caring and loving relationships with more than a few good men.
Our disagreements, or arguments, were emotionally brutal — I was usually a devastated, dilapidated, wet mess; he was always resigned. That's my niece's daughter."He did have one daughter, he continued. And she had no kids — was the kind who would hug them, and then be happy to give them back to their parents, he said."Wow," I said. The discovery that night on my date, by happenstance, that my husband had apparently started his new life before he ended the old one was the pivot. I was soldiering through a twisty jungle of mediating, lawyering, betrayal, abandonment, lies, dividing, ranting, crying, fighting. Men who didn't see me as a number; as a woman of a certain age. The room became a blur of scurrying waiters, and all I could hear was the water recycling through its bad sculpture."I think... Since separating, we still had to figure out how to untie an old familiar knot. My life then became an interminable, two-year thwacking. I was having unbidden and impromptu moments of pure, unbridled joy. They came from chance encounters, setups, friends, the past.The post-separation agreement acts as a contract between the spouses during the period of separation.It can govern everything from financial support to relations between the parties.